Idolatry: Using God’s Word for Codependency

Idolatry: Using God’s Word for Codependency

This post first appeared on   The word codependency has a bad rep these days. Many psychologists think the word stigmatizes spouses of adulterers or sexual addicts who are already traumatized by their partners’ sins. Telling these victimized...

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Is God in Control?

Is God in Control?

At the most basic level, it is most certainly God who is in control, but does that equal control on all levels? Perhaps a better question is “What has God decided not to control?”

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Diary of an Edge-a-phobic

Diary of an Edge-a-phobic

God uses relationships, finances, and our health to challenge our fears and draw us to the edge of our faith where the blessings await us.

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What Is An Idol of the Heart?

What Is An Idol of the Heart?

We may not think of ourselves as idol worshipers, but when we allow other things to take God’s rightful place, we set up idols in our heart.

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6 Reasons to Love Your Unrepentant Spouse

6 Reasons to Love Your Unrepentant Spouse

God and his Son defined and exemplified a compassionate, boundary-rich love for us, the same love a sexual addict’s spouse is compelled and empowered to have even for an unrepentant partner.

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5 Steps to Get Out of the Way of Your Spouse’s Addiction Recovery

When our spouse is addicted to sexual sin, the most loving thing we can do for them and ourselves is to shut up, get out of the way, focus on our own healing, and let God work.

God’s Open Door to Daily Reconciliation and Intimacy

With distractions constantly bombarding those of us who seek to please God, we must be careful we don’t drift away but commit to a daily reconciliation and intimacy with our First Love.

A Perfection Worth Pursuing

When we understand the biblical definition of perfection is “mature in character”, we can stop pretending we have it all together and be vulnerable, allowing God to transform us into the image of Christ.

Recognizing Repentance in a Sexually-Addicted Spouse

To recognize real repentance and its subsequent transforming process, we need to use the Bible as a standard and the scriptural definition of godly sorrow.

Thankful in the Midst of Painful Recovery

If we keep our eyes fixed on God, Jesus, and “things above”, we can find joy and thankfulness even in the worst of our pain and struggle in recovery.

Gospel of Hope: A Codependent in Colossians

Join us on a journey through Colossians as it speaks directly to the heart of codependents and the specific character challenges of those who recognize their codependency, or as the Bible calls it, idolatry.

Rescued When We Were At Our Worst

In a world addicted to the hero worship of other sinful people, we as Christians must set our sights on the only heroes worthy of our worship—God and his Son, Jesus Christ.

How Truth Frees Us From a Deceived or Accused Mentality

The scriptures provide a balanced view of grace so we can discern and master the deceiving or accusing lies about our spiritual position and condition before an all-knowing and all-seeing God.

Healing Separately Let Us Re-Build Together

Only when a man and woman are complete in God—emotionally, spiritually, and physically—can each complement the other and build a healthy, intimate marriage that weathers the inevitable storms of life.

No One Ever Told Me My Christian Husband Could Be Unfaithful

The shattered dreams of infidelity in my Christian marriage created an opportunity for God to prove his faithfulness and for me to continue to be transformed.

How Codependency Makes Idolaters of Us All

Codependency or idolatry can only be overcome when we are willing to face the fact that we have put something other than God on the throne of our lives.

20 Resources to Intensify Your Intimacy with God

In the new year, getting the right mindset is a prerequisite for intensifying a good relationships with God or bringing a dying one back to life. These 20 resources can stoke the spark into a flame.

Getting a Good Night’s Sleep When Your Marriage is Broken by Sexual Sin

Getting a good night’s sleep in the wake of your spouse’s sexual sin is achievable with a few practical strategies and a renewed devotion to emotional intimacy with your First Husband—God.

3 Ways Recycling Pain Helps You Heal from Sexual Sin in Marriage

Recycling our pain to help others traumatized by sexual sin enables us see our own situation with fresh eyes, grants us a new perspective on recovery, and propels us forward on your journey toward healing.

Where Do We Get Our Worth From?

When we seek our self-worth from other people, we are often replicating a pattern from our childhood. God calls us to please him and seek our worth from him so we can be healed and whole.

Chains: An Alternative Look at the Passion of Christ

There was one dark witness at the cross the Bible doesn't talk about.  The crowd was chanting and screaming, clawing at the early morning air. Their sandaled feet stamped the dusty street like cattle preparing for a mindless stampede. Earthy brown tunics flapped...

Is God in Control?

At the most basic level, it is most certainly God who is in control, but does that equal control on all levels? Perhaps a better question is “What has God decided not to control?”

Why Suffering is a Fast-Pass to Deeper Intimacy with Jesus

Only when we reach the bottom of our pain threshold and share in Jesus’ suffering can we find, enjoy, and thrive in Christ as the fathomless treasure of wisdom, knowledge, and peace.

How Long Does It Take a Couple to Recover from Sexual Betrayal?

Sexually betrayed spouses can find peace, hope, security, and direction when they identify where they are in the big picture of the recovery process and make steady, upward progress.

Knowing God Intimately

We grow in our knowledge of God not just by studying the Bible, but by engaging and connecting with God with our most vulnerable self.

Filled to the Brim with Spiritual Wisdom

When we choose to consistently drink deeply from God’s Word, we can use the Spirit’s ESP (Extra Spiritual Perception) to accurately discern what God’s will is for our life and marriage.

Patiently Enduring You and Your Spouse’s Recovery

Seeking strength from God’s infinite power and faithfulness rather than looking to ourselves to be strong is the only way we can patiently endure the trials of this life.

The Pain and Purpose of Infidelity Disclosure: Why Truth Really Does Set Us Free

While disclosure of sin in marriage can initially trigger enormous pain and shame, its power lies in freeing the truth so repentance, healing, unity, and growth can result.

Bearing Fruit Because We’re Already Loved

Paul challenges the Colossians, and by extension us, to “bear fruit” not because we need to prove our worth to God, but because He already made us worthy with the Cross.

Putting Your Faith Where Your Mouth Is in Recovery

Having faith in God in the midst of the storm of a spouse’s sexual betrayal and recovery requires more than belief in Jesus. It requires action.