Secrets of the Heart

Secrets of the Heart

I greet each day resignedly,work and home and familyand living quite amicablywith secrets in my heart. They don’t obstruct my daily grind.They’re tucked in shadow in my mind,and rarely do I search to findthese secrets in my heart. But then life brings me full...

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What They Don’t Know Will Hurt Them

What They Don’t Know Will Hurt Them

This article is reprinted from The Institute of Sexual Health, "What They Don't Know Will Hurt Them: The Hidden Dangers of Sexual Secrets" by Dr. Omar Minwalla | When it comes to understanding the harm caused by cheating, infidelity, and deceptive sexuality or...

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Loving the Truth: Creating a Legacy of Integrity and Trust

Loving the Truth: Creating a Legacy of Integrity and Trust

Being truthful—I mean, really truthful—in any and every situation is hard. Of course, Jesus did it and, as his image bearers, so should we. But speaking the truth also got Jesus killed, so is it any wonder we sometimes have a love-hate relationship with embracing...

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Idolatry: Using God’s Word for Codependency

Idolatry: Using God’s Word for Codependency

This post first appeared on BeFullyWell.com.   The word codependency has a bad rep these days. Many psychologists think the word stigmatizes spouses of adulterers or sexual addicts who are already traumatized by their partners’ sins. Telling these victimized...

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Is God in Control?

Is God in Control?

At the most basic level, it is most certainly God who is in control, but does that equal control on all levels? Perhaps a better question is “What has God decided not to control?”

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Diary of an Edge-a-phobic

Diary of an Edge-a-phobic

God uses relationships, finances, and our health to challenge our fears and draw us to the edge of our faith where the blessings await us.

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What Is An Idol of the Heart?

What Is An Idol of the Heart?

We may not think of ourselves as idol worshipers, but when we allow other things to take God’s rightful place, we set up idols in our heart.

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5 Steps to Get Out of the Way of Your Spouse’s Addiction Recovery

When our spouse is addicted to sexual sin, the most loving thing we can do for them and ourselves is to shut up, get out of the way, focus on our own healing, and let God work.

Bearing Fruit Because We’re Already Loved

Paul challenges the Colossians, and by extension us, to “bear fruit” not because we need to prove our worth to God, but because He already made us worthy with the Cross.

How Long Does It Take a Couple to Recover from Sexual Betrayal?

Sexually betrayed spouses can find peace, hope, security, and direction when they identify where they are in the big picture of the recovery process and make steady, upward progress.

Thankful in the Midst of Painful Recovery

If we keep our eyes fixed on God, Jesus, and “things above”, we can find joy and thankfulness even in the worst of our pain and struggle in recovery.

God’s Open Door to Daily Reconciliation and Intimacy

With distractions constantly bombarding those of us who seek to please God, we must be careful we don’t drift away but commit to a daily reconciliation and intimacy with our First Love.

Recognizing Repentance in a Sexually-Addicted Spouse

To recognize real repentance and its subsequent transforming process, we need to use the Bible as a standard and the scriptural definition of godly sorrow.

Rescued When We Were At Our Worst

In a world addicted to the hero worship of other sinful people, we as Christians must set our sights on the only heroes worthy of our worship—God and his Son, Jesus Christ.

Putting Your Faith Where Your Mouth Is in Recovery

Having faith in God in the midst of the storm of a spouse’s sexual betrayal and recovery requires more than belief in Jesus. It requires action.

What They Don’t Know Will Hurt Them

This article is reprinted from The Institute of Sexual Health, "What They Don't Know Will Hurt Them: The Hidden Dangers of Sexual Secrets" by Dr. Omar Minwalla | When it comes to understanding the harm caused by cheating, infidelity, and deceptive sexuality or...

6 Reasons to Love Your Unrepentant Spouse

God and his Son defined and exemplified a compassionate, boundary-rich love for us, the same love a sexual addict’s spouse is compelled and empowered to have even for an unrepentant partner.

Chains: An Alternative Look at the Passion of Christ

There was one dark witness at the cross the Bible doesn't talk about.  The crowd was chanting and screaming, clawing at the early morning air. Their sandaled feet stamped the dusty street like cattle preparing for a mindless stampede. Earthy brown tunics flapped the...

20 Resources to Intensify Your Intimacy with God

In the new year, getting the right mindset is a prerequisite for intensifying a good relationships with God or bringing a dying one back to life. These 20 resources can stoke the spark into a flame.

Patiently Enduring You and Your Spouse’s Recovery

Seeking strength from God’s infinite power and faithfulness rather than looking to ourselves to be strong is the only way we can patiently endure the trials of this life.

Loving the Truth: Creating a Legacy of Integrity and Trust

Being truthful—I mean, really truthful—in any and every situation is hard. Of course, Jesus did it and, as his image bearers, so should we. But speaking the truth also got Jesus killed, so is it any wonder we sometimes have a love-hate relationship with embracing...

Is God in Control?

At the most basic level, it is most certainly God who is in control, but does that equal control on all levels? Perhaps a better question is “What has God decided not to control?”

Filled to the Brim with Spiritual Wisdom

When we choose to consistently drink deeply from God’s Word, we can use the Spirit’s ESP (Extra Spiritual Perception) to accurately discern what God’s will is for our life and marriage.

Getting a Good Night’s Sleep When Your Marriage is Broken by Sexual Sin

Getting a good night’s sleep in the wake of your spouse’s sexual sin is achievable with a few practical strategies and a renewed devotion to emotional intimacy with your First Husband—God.

A Perfection Worth Pursuing

When we understand the biblical definition of perfection is “mature in character”, we can stop pretending we have it all together and be vulnerable, allowing God to transform us into the image of Christ.

Remembering Our Spiritual Parents

Recalling those who shared the truth with us as well as those we’ve shared the gospel with empowers us to recall God’s love, faithfulness, and comfort even in our most painful moments.

How Truth Frees Us From a Deceived or Accused Mentality

The scriptures provide a balanced view of grace so we can discern and master the deceiving or accusing lies about our spiritual position and condition before an all-knowing and all-seeing God.

Enough

A fairy tale about divine worthiness and being “enough” because the Father made us worthy by the Son.

How Codependency Makes Idolaters of Us All

Codependency or idolatry can only be overcome when we are willing to face the fact that we have put something other than God on the throne of our lives.

Why Suffering is a Fast-Pass to Deeper Intimacy with Jesus

Only when we reach the bottom of our pain threshold and share in Jesus’ suffering can we find, enjoy, and thrive in Christ as the fathomless treasure of wisdom, knowledge, and peace.

No One Ever Told Me My Christian Husband Could Be Unfaithful

The shattered dreams of infidelity in my Christian marriage created an opportunity for God to prove his faithfulness and for me to continue to be transformed.

Where Do We Get Our Worth From?

When we seek our self-worth from other people, we are often replicating a pattern from our childhood. God calls us to please him and seek our worth from him so we can be healed and whole.

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