God’s Open Door to Daily Reconciliation and Intimacy

Part 11 of the Codependent in Colossians Series

by Kim Pullen

Series Manifesto: Instead of ignoring the pain following the disclosure of our spouse’s sexual sin, we choose to use our trauma as a catalyst for growth, digging deeply into God’s Word in search of spiritual healing and transformation.

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“For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him, and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through his blood, shed on the cross. Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior. But now he has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation… “


In the last post, “How Codependency Makes Idolaters Of Us All”, I included a little quiz for you to check who is currently on the throne of your life. This week, I want to further explore why it’s important we not rest on the laurels of our initial conversion, but rather continue to pursue daily reconciliation with God.



Sometimes I have the focus and attention span of Pixar’s dog Dug (from the movie, “UP”). Whether it’s writing, cleaning my house, checking email, having a conversation, or reading my Bible. Someone metaphorically shouts, “Squirrel!” and I’m off to the races.

With social media infiltrating into every area of our lives, I bet I’m not the only one who is continually distracted by a hundred different diversions. In fact, in having you read this blog, I’m banking on you giving me a few minutes of your attention to share my story. Some distractions are entertaining, but some can be downright dangers especially when we don’t notice where we’re drifting.


Old Testament Drifters

The writer of the book of Hebrews knew our tendency to get distracted and drift from our reconciled relationship with God was not just a possibility, it was a reality (Hebrews 2:1). Jesus isn’t going anywhere since he’s “the same yesterday, today, and forever” (Hebrews 13:8). It’s us. We’re the ones that drift away.

If it wasn’t our nature to wander, there’d be no need for the Spirit to have inspired Acts through Revelations; the Gospels would have been enough. But even the Old Testament is rife with reminders to “remember the Lord”. The Israelites were still in sight of Egypt when they forgot about the plagues and miracles God performed to free them from 400 years of captivity.

In his Parable of the Sower, Jesus taught about our tendency to let other things take God’s place on the throne of our lives (Matthew 13:20-22). Paul constantly pleaded with the first century disciples to remember all Christ had done for them. And Jesus rounds out the New Testament by warning five of seven Revelation churches they’d drifted from their secure position and were in jeopardy of being cut off (Revelations 2:1-3:22).


Present Day Drifters

It’s easy for me to look down on my Old and New Testament brothers and sisters for wandering off the spiritual path. But I believe wandering is our default. Facebook was created because of how easily we lose touch with childhood friends, old co-workers, and neighbors. My husband and I wandered away from our relationships with God and then from each other. It’s what led to our four-year separation.

If you are reading this, you chose to read it rather than doing a myriad of necessary things: work, housecleaning, laundry, yardwork, bills, exercise, community service, or spending time with family or friends. We also engage in discretionary activities that eat away at our valuable time—watching television or sports, social media, and video gaming.

The reason I wrestle with balancing the necessary and the discretionary activities is because I’m limited by one thing God isn’t limited by—time. He can spend as much time with me as I need. But the amount and quality of time I spend with Him each day is a clear indication of what I treasure in my life (Matthew 6:19-34).


An Open Door to Intimacy

According to our key text, Jesus purified us so he could bring us into God’s presence. But neither the Son nor the Father will chain us to His throne. What we have is an open door to intimacy, a standing invitation to sit with Him, dine with Him, and walk with Him every day.

If we use the Spirit’s power to live in the world but not be of the world (John 17:14-15), he promises that even if we start to drift, he’ll call us back:

“And if you leave God’s paths and go astray, you will hear a voice behind you say, ‘No, this is the way; walk here’.” (Isaiah 30:21, TLB)

It’s up to us to listen and follow (John 10:3-5). 

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