Isolation to Intimacy
Online Program & Community
Your Guide to Hope & Healing
A Proven Strategy for Peace and Security in the Wake of Your Spouse's Adultery or Addiction to Pornography
Start your healing journey with a 7-day guest membership
What is it?
ISOLATION TO INTIMACY is an online program created for spouses whose partners have committed adultery or are addicted to pornography.
It is a personal, practical, biblically-based guide to move you from trauma and isolation to hope and healing.
What does it include?
Everything you need to start your journey out of isolation and move purposefully toward healthy intimacy with God and a circle of safe others.
Module 1
Out of Denial & Isolation
Learn to grieve your losses and accept your powerlessness to change others.
Module 2
Renewing Your Heart & Mind
Confront your pain and implement proven methods to change how you view God, yourself, and your spouse.
Module 3
The Power of Three
Make God your primary source of strength and identify your support system: groups, professional counselors, and safe others.
Module 4
The Wound Behind the Why
Understand how childhood wounds manifest in adulthood, and create space to extend grace to yourself and to your spouse.
Module 5
Boundaries: Taking Responsilibity for You
Learn how to recognize personal boundaries, refrain from violating others’, and set and hold your own.
Module 6
The Long & Winding Road
The process of recovery includes counting the cost of intimacy, recognizing repentance, and choosing forgiveness.
Module 7
There’s Glory in Your Story
Growth and gratitude produce intimacy, the desire to recycle pain for others, and an acceptance of others’ choices.
EACH Module includes:
4-5 VIDEO course lessons,
4-5 personal, practical ASSIGNMENTS,
PLUS dozens of RESOURCES including guide sheets, helpful links, affirmations, and supplementary reading materials.
You’ll also get…
These amazing bonuses to help you move toward healing!
Self-Care Mini-Course
This supplementary mini-course includes seven video lessons where you’ll care for the areas of your life you may have neglected including your physical and mental health, friendships, hobbies, career, and dreams.
Online Community
You’ll have access to your own personal, private online community, utilizing the video texting app Marco Polo. Connect with other i2i travelers for inspiration and encouragement to move forward on your recovery journey.
Group Q&A Sessions
Twice a month you’ll have an opportunity to connect with Kim and the rest of the Isolation to Intimacy community to share celebrations, ask questions, learn from other travelers, and get personal input.
Digital Workbook Series
As you go through your Isolation to Intimacy lessons, utilize our digital, fill-able, and printable 3-part workbook series—more than 160 pages! Beautifully designed, it includes all your homework assignments, links, supplementary resources, affirmations, scripture references, and unlimited space for notes—all in one inspirational place.
6+ Months Mentoring & Personal Coaching
Get 6+ months of mentoring or coaching with Kim Pullen as your personal guide. You’ll also get specific feedback on homework assignments to help you avoid the inevitable obstacles and stay focused on your destination—peace, security, and confidence.
BONUS COURSE: iSeeU Kickstart Recovery!
This $300 kickstart video course is also included to supplement and deepen your Isolation to Intimacy lessons. The iSeeU Kickstart Recovery Course includes 50-video lessons, homework, supplementary reading, and an inspirational 4-part digital workbook.
Who’s it for?
It’s for you if you’ve taken on one of these roles in your marriage.
The Sleuth
You suspect your spouse is lying or hiding, but haven’t found evidence to prove they’re guilty of sexual sin. You secretly scour their emails, credit card receipts, or text messages looking for clues. Catching them has become an obsession.
The Paralytic
You’re emotionally paralyzed. You know your spouse has committed adultery or watches porn. You’ve ignored it, letting it eat away at your conscience hoping it’ll go away on it’s own, or you simply have no idea what to do or where to start.
The Captive
You and your spouse have been in recovery or you’ve been separated for months or years with little contact. You feel like you’re hanging in limbo, a prisoner to their bad choices. You want to believe your marriage can be healed but your faith is wearing thin.
BOTTOM LINE
You’ve known or suspected your spouse of having an affair or an addiction to pornography. You’ve been paralyzed and isolated by fear, shame, or grief. It’s time to start your journey toward hope and healing.
What makes Isolation to Intimacy so unique?
A Biblical Strategy
The ONLY program that offers a step-by-step, biblically-based strategy to guide you from isolation to intimacy with God and a safe circle of others.
Accessible Anywhere
Work on your recovery from anywhere in the world, whether it’s a rural Midwest town, a sprawling metropolitan city, or a remote village.
A Connected Community
Connect with an international community of recovering spouses who are striving to honor God with their marriage.
Personal & Affordable
The ONLY program that offers 6+ months of personal support for thousands less than multi-day intensives.
An Experienced Guide
The ONLY program with an experienced guide to walk alongside you for the entire journey.
Wholehealth Focus
The ONLY program that addresses healing mind, body, and spirit with an integrated self-care mini-course.
What are your recovery options?
Isolation to Intimacy
PROS:
- A biblically-based, holistic approach to recovery.
- Lifetime, 24/7 access to lessons and resources via internet from anywhere in the world.
- Includes an active, global community of safe others to share the recovery journey.
- An experienced coach to walk you through the entire recovery journey at no additional cost.
- Not contingent on a spouse’s choice to change.
- Significantly less than the cost of a weekend intensive.
Other Online Groups
PROS:
- Access via internet
- Medium to low cost depending on professional or volunteer support.
- Partial or limited use of Scripture for recovery process.
CONS:
- Restricted meeting days/times.
- Limitations on divorcing spouses or those living outside the US.
- Resources not included in cost.
- Additional cost for individual support or coaching.
Face-to-Face Support Groups
PROS:
- Ideal for building safe community of like-strangers.
- Low or no cost.
CONS:
- May be suspended due to COVID-19.
- Partial or limited use of Scripture for recovery process.
- Difficult to find especially in less populated areas or outside the US.
- Restricted meetings days/times.
- Inconsistent or limited individual support.
What are the long-term costs for NOT investing in your recovery?
Medical & Psychological Costs
- Mounting medical costs from the stress and anxiety over your broken marriage including increased risk for developing auto-immune disease or other physiological dysfunction.
- Future costs of professional counseling for your adult kids.
Business or Professional Costs
- Potential job loss or income loss due to emotional or mental stress.
- Loss of future income.
Relational Costs
- Staying trapped indefinitely in an emotionally-abusive relationship
- Sacrificing a legacy of healthy relationships for your children
- If you divorce and find another partner, you’re likely to marry another addict
Spiritual Costs
- A bitter or dysfunctional relationship with God
- Estrangement from spiritual or church family
- Could ultimately cost you and your children your/their salvation
FAQs
How long does it take to complete the program?
As long as you need. While recovery is a difficult and challenging process, it is also as individual as you are. Much depends on where you start your recovery, how well you know yourself, your Bible literacy, and how quickly you are ready to change old patterns of thinking (Romans 12:2).
It is recommended you take at least 3-5 days to complete each lesson. This includes watching the video several times to process the information and scriptures, completing the assignment, and exploring the supplementary resources. Some lessons will take longer. Others you will want to repeat several times.
How often do I receive my course modules?
From the course dashboard, you will have access to the first two modules when you register. Thereafter, and to help you stay on course, you will receive access to one additional module, including all the lessons and the corresponding Self-Care lesson every 2-4 weeks.
How often are the coaching sessions?
You have access to eight (8) 50-minute private coaching sessions with Kim Pullen. Coaching sessions are optional but recommended and occur upon the completion of each module or as needed. You have 12 months from your registration date to complete your coaching sessions.
How long can I access the program?
You will have 24/7 unlimited access to course materials including module videos, assignments, supplementary resources, two monthly Zoom calls, and the online community. Lifetime access granted if course is completed within 24 months.
Do I have to be a Christian or know the Bible to benefit from the program?
You do not need to be a Bible scholar prior to beginning this program, however, some Bible knowledge will be helpful. If you do have Biblical relationship with God, the lessons will dramatically improve your intimacy with Him.
If you do not have a Biblical faith, the program will nurture your understanding of the scriptures and open your eyes to God’s infinite love and compassion (Romans 10:17).
What if my spouse is abusive?
Please note this program is designed for difficult marriages, not dangerous ones. If you are in an environment that is not safe, we encourage you to seek help as your safety is of primary importance. In the US, we recommend you contact the National Domestic Violence Violence Hotline as soon as possible. There are two ways:
- Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and talk to a trained advocate available 24/7/365
- Live Chat 24/7/365
or outside the US, find a local domestic abuse help agency near you.
Start healing today.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain including a deeper, more intimate relationships with God, safe friends, and maybe even your spouse.
Start your personal journey now!
What others are saying about Kim Pullen and the Hope for Spouses recovery programs
When I first found Hope for Spouses, my husband had just abandoned me to pursue another affair, and I didn’t know where to turn. I was devastated! I couldn’t eat, sleep, or think about anything except how this had happened to me…again.
Then I started Kim’s Isolation to Intimacy program and for the first time, started to see myself clearly. Loaded with scriptures, the program helped me see how I needed to change, how much God loves me, and how I no longer need to fear the future.
The Isolation to Intimacy program has drastically changed my marriage because it forced me to look in the mirror. Without God being #1 in my life, I would continue to spiral downward and my fears would consume me.
I have learned to set and maintain healthy boundaries, and the online community gives me a safe place to share my thoughts, struggles, and fears. I have also learned how to go to God to meet many spiritual and emotional needs my spouse was not created to meet for me.
I didn’t know such a resource existed that gathers all this information in one place. The most valuable part of this program for me is how Kim uses the Bible to support the entire recovery journey. I felt understood, not only by God, but by Kim. It was like taking my journey with God on one side and a friend on the other.
There is so much wisdom and knowledge to absorb in the Isolation to Intimacy program. God used it to help me uncover and safely surrender my pain to him so I could experience freedom and healing. I feel confident knowing I now have a better idea of what God wants for me and where I am headed. I no longer feel like I’m walking in the dark.
As a wife who discovered her husband’s sexual sin 35 years into my marriage, I highly recommend this program. Kim has developed an insightful and powerful resource for anyone who has experienced the effects of betrayal trauma from a spouse’s unfaithfulness, whether through an affair, prostitution, or pornography and masturbation.
One of the last exercises in the Isolation to Intimacy program is to write a letter to the woman you were when you started this journey. After 8 months of transformation, I cannot tell you how inspirational that was. I started so broken, so disillusioned, and in such a dark place, but thanks to this anointed program and God taking me by the hand, I can honestly say I have come through on the other side victorious. Thank you, Kim Pullen, from the bottom of my heart for turning your story into a pathway for recovery for others, and to my Father God for transforming my mind.